The Light of Truth in a Storm

From my observations, the different organizations in this craziness have more in common than differences. Both seek “justice” at some level. Justice for a dead man, and justice for the person who caused his death. The organizations are large and funded. Both have legitimate concerns. Both watch this video and are disgusted.

Most importantly, they want the world to know that a small group within each respective organization, BLM, Police, and others, do not represent the values of the whole. Riot instigators causing problems during legitimate, legal, and peaceful protests. Known problem officers that conduct themselves in a manner that 99.9% of other officers would never approve.

This is a two way street. What these organizations must realize is the street traveled is actually a one-way with the same destination, justice. Words are weapons for good and bad. Seek the good words. Listen to the words and not the noise created by media outlets. If no one is listening and blame is placed on the whole, each organization negates their purpose and becomes exactly what they protest.

Storms break and in the middle the light of truth shines.

There will always be bad actors, together we hold them, I say again, together we hold them, the responsible individuals accountable. That is where you will find the justice you seek.

Positive isn’t Always the News

I have noticed something lately, and it’s not a negative thing and definitely deserves attention. During these strange times, it’s obvious how negative stories can dominate headlines, because apparently that is the news. Yet right in front of all of us are real acts of kindness, heart, and compassion.

I am seeing true American ingenuity. For example, several of our fitness experts and gym owners like Dion SgroMariah Prussia, and April Imholte are providing online workouts for people to do in their homes. I am seeing parents teaching their children about cooking, conserving resources, and using technology to teach their children who are currently at home due to this situation. People like Rozalyn Howery taking her children on virtual tours of many places in the world through the internet and reading books.

Our small businesses, like restaurants are offering carryout services. These Americans are still there, still serving our communities.

Even social clubs are encouraging online groups to help maintain some socialization. It’s different, but allows some level of interaction and a breath of normal.

American resilience and ingenuity has always prevailed, and always will. We can take a lesson from those like Teresa Terry who understand the gravity of these times, but know how to find the best in not only the situation, but their fellow Americans, encouraging people to remember compassion.

People like Dave Jopp who encourage music and keep people entertained through radio.

People like Sandy Zok who offer their expertise to those who may need some type of social service.

People like Josh Kehr, who continues to play excellent music and offers help to those who may need deliveries or anything else.

These are just a small sample of the positive things happening during this time.

In the end, this virus, like any other virus or crisis, does not discriminate against your skin color, past, present, ethnicity, political affiliation, or sexual orientation. In the end, we will prevail as we always have. In the end, we are all still human. Be kind and compassionate to those most vulnerable in our society.

Reach out should you need help, it is out there. Support your local small businesses, neighbors, and friends. Thank you for being a great American.

Where Have the Leaders Gone?

Everyone seems to have had that one boss that was just outstanding.  You know the one, they stood up for you, had great balance and maintained some level of common sense.  Unfortunately, that characteristic seems to be as rare as a leprechaun and pot of gold. Everyone has also had that boss or supervisor that was just plain horrible. The difference between leadership and management is striking, and I am afraid we are losing our leaders.

Leadership

To best understand leadership, I feel that it is important to break the word down.  Leader defines the individual, an adjective.  A person’s character, integrity, and values tend to be what constructs a leader.

Leadership is an act by that individual. The application of all of these traits constitutes leadership.  There is a beginning of leadership, and two obvious things can happen.  The person continues to be a leader throughout there life.  The other is that the leadership ends.  The ending of leadership can happen in so many ways:

  1. Corruption
  2. Voluntarily
  3. Through force
  4. Death

 

I think if a person is discussing leadership, we must focus on what leadership is not. Leadership is not:

  1. Management
  2. Discipline
  3. A title
  4. An event
  5. By default

Management

 Throughout my different occupations, I have had a variety of managers.  Some managers were terrific,  and others had absolutely no business being a position to make decisions for a collective group.  The latter were often placed in these positions by attrition, seniority, and even corruption.  I will refer to these mangers as “The Lost”.

I think The Lost is a good term simply because these individuals are placed with responsibilities that they are incapable of handling.  Simple tasks where a person is told what to do by a senior official does not make them a leader of humans, it makes them a conduit of information.  They may have experience in one or two important actions, but are completely incapable of leading a team, or even one person, to a sustainable outcome.

Discipline

There will always be rules.  If you work for the government, you will find that rules are plentiful and often changing.  The ambiguity of some of the workplace rules make them ripe for interpretation.  There in lies a huge problem.  We are left to the interpretation of the rules by under qualified, overwhelmed manager who likely is not going to give full credit to a particular situation.  The ambiguity of these rules also make them ripe for fraud.  One rule seemingly may not apply to certain individuals and before anyone can say lawsuit, morale, upward mobility, and trust is eliminated by the masses.

Leaders may be called upon to discipline subordinates, which is perfectly acceptable however; there needs to be a beginning, middle, and end to discipline.   In the end, what is the ultimate goal of discipline?  Why take the time an effort to discipline if the ultimate goal is not rehabilitation.  If I am a company owner with employees, fairness, equal justice, and remedy are the virtues that will make the employee not only rehabilitate, but also bring respect to the workplace.

Title

I could call myself a doctor but I assure you that you would not want me to provide you any medical advice.  A person can become a lawful ordained minister online in a matter of minutes.

Far too often we promote those who are motivated by the wrong reasons.  A title is nothing more that a cloak that ultimately offers no protection for the individual or for whom they are responsible. The title given to an individual is nothing more than mere words if they are failing to truly manage themselves or anyone around them.

I have had managers that have had very limited experience come in and try to do what they believed was the right thing, which was the worst thing.  The decades of experience they had to draw from was pushed by the wayside, immediately causing distrust, lack of any respect, and ultimately destroyed the morale of the entire group. This manager hid behind the cape of manager until their own people essentially rebelled, removing the security blanket the title brought the manager. It’s a slippery slope, and this manger was sliding fast.

An Event

Events happen in the workplace.  A bad senior manager that may be paranoid about losing control will sometimes stack the deck with subordinate managers simply to do their bidding. Now two non-leaders are in the management cycle, playing off each other like a late night argument between spouses.

Not selecting the most experienced or best candidate for the job is cancer.  There is no cure for it except to remove one, if not both before the whole system falls apart.  This happens over and over again.  There is not necessarily one reason this happens.  A combination of Equal Opportunity Laws (EEO), politics, self interest, and corruption, these incapable managers are selected and simply nod yes to everything that comes across their desk.  There is no thought, confrontation, or decision making needed to be in this management situation and it happens in every sector of the workplace.

Default

If you ever wonder why certain people have skills to make a career out of politics this make not surprise you.  Under table deals, agreements, understandings between corporations and the candidate can be a few reasons.  Another less thought of, but obvious reason is because there isn’t a quality candidate running against them, or no one running at all.

This is not the end of this conversation, and definitely worth exploring further.  Stay tuned!

 

Let’s Make an Immediate and Direct Impact

As you all may know, writing, music, and the arts have been proven to be absolute excellent therapy in the treatment regarding the symptoms of PTSD.
 
There are currently several organizations such as, Song Writing with Soldiers, that pair musicians with veterans. The veterans often times tell their stories or share songs they have written. The artists collaborates with the veteran and together, they create a song based on that story. These organizations are invaluable.
 
In an attempt to get one of these excellent organizations to come locally, I have discovered that this process is so popular and effective that the organizations are booked out nearly two years.
 
The group I work with at the VA is committed to educating the public regarding PTSD for not only veterans, but all first responders. I don’t like to re-invent the wheel, but now have a goal.
 
What better way to educate the public than to include them in the process. There is so much talent locally and nationally that I believe starting an organization that accomplishes this goal does two things. First, it provides the same opportunity as the larger organization. Second, it directly involves our local and national talent, educating the public via participation.
 
I bear first hand witness to the therapeutic benefits of the arts regarding managing the symptoms of PTSD. I am happy, able, and willing to set up the organization and begin collaboration as soon as possible. The goal is to have a song or two by November 2020 that would be performed live at an event sponsored by the Fargo, ND VA at a local venue.
 
If you are a musician, song writer, or have a absolute desire to make a direct impact, regardless of where you live, please message me. There really are no rules. A great deal of this can be done over email, however I feel it is imperative that the artist meet the veteran at some point. I promise you the end result will make a positive difference in a veteran, first responder, and your life.
 
Thank you all for being the kind of Americans worth fighting for!
 
Dan

Listen to My Radio Interview

Hi Everyone!

In case you missed it, feel free to click the link below to listen to my radio interview on the Heroes of the Heartland Radio program from this morning!  Thank you all so much for the continued support for this project! I used to say it meant the world to me, and it does, but now I am starting to see that there is a bigger picture.  Thank you for all the phone calls, texts, and emails. Keep them coming!

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Using Yours

Like a loving mother that would starve to feed her young,  life too will feed you if you are willing to eat.  On the other hand, should you find yourself not hungry, give your plate to another, for then you become life.
DTH 2019
Using Yours.
I was recently in Charleston, SC and found it was every bit beautiful as I had been told.  Like most cities, there are several faces of the city, even if you travel just a short distance.  I find this same comparison in people.  Some may look good on the outside, but more often than not, they too have another face.    
Arguably, I am a humble guy. I prefer to encourage people and congratulate their successes.  Don’t get that confused with credit.  I am a firm believer in giving credit where credit is due.  A Champion of the soon to be successful underdog. 
In reality, There are those that ask for your “help”, and once provided, give little to no credit to those whom really do the work.  Often times this occurs in the Supervisor/Supervised relationship.  The unfortunate result is a moral destroying situation for the supervised. 
The above scenario used to really drive me crazy.  Pages and volumes of my research, making those in higher positions look good. Furthermore, the posturing that ensues is almost comical with no ex post facto benefit for those who actually have done the work.   Unfortunately, this seems to be a common scenario regardless of where you have employment. 
Most people do not need to be paraded around cubicle city upon their co-workers shoulders, yet some do.  My point is, the simple act of giving credit where credit is due by a supervisor is sign of strength, not weakness. 
When, not if, this happens to you, remember some advice the smartest guy I know told me. “We always win in the end.”
This ever happen to any of you?  I can measure this in days and weeks for the most part. The thing is, learn from this as someday you will be the person who passes the plate, or throws it in the garbage.  I encourage you to pass the plate and give everyone the best opportunity to succeed.  Leaders eat last, my friends.
Thanks for taking a look!
Dan

“The Letter”

The Letter

Today I met you for the very first time,

Many questions need answers,

Seeing you are the victim of your own crime.

 

We are about the same age, your home similar to mine,

Pictures and favorite things,

 you are not a hard person to define.

 

On the table is camera with an impressive lens,

A camera similar to mine,

Who knows, maybe we could have been friends.

 

 The puzzle piece of your life summed up in a letter left on the floor,

Together our time will be short,

 Absorbing your written thoughts, as I slowly close the door.

 

I am not here to judge you and can only assume,

Your thoughts consumed your soul,

your world, now this dark room.

 

Your life on paper, like a script from a show,

Every pain, hardship and sorrow,

Left to be found by me, someone you didn’t even know.

 

To this earth, this life, you are no longer bound,

Placing a small part of your burden on me,

This scene of sadness, in a letter left to be found.

 

You answer the question why and the how has been done,

The haunting torment ends,

for those who cared, it has only just begun.

 

Understand when I read this, there is no way for me to feel what you did,

A spirit gone and wasted ,

For me like before, these images hidden, secured with a tight lid.

 

I was summoned here today certainly not by my choice,

Putting your story in a stranger’s hands,

Trusting that I will now be your voice.

 

I don’t know your whole life or why you chose this day,

but who cared for you are now my concern,

And I will not let them see you this way.

 

If you can hear me, know I think you made a mistake,

Your tragedy now mine too,  

The details with be softened, simply for your family’s sake.

 

What is going to happen now isn’t what you think,

The pictures and your story will be re-written,

Like others before and after, the effect will not grow, but shrink.

 

It is better me do this rather than someone who you knew,

A permanent solution to a temporary problem,

Their hearts broken, my next call waits with something new.

 

You may think I don’t care, but you committed your own crime,

There have been many before you,

Understand that this certainly is not my first time.

 

Quietly I speak hoping my words you can hear,

Many have traveled the same path,

Some who do my job, their memories met with my tear.

 

Make no mistake, with me this day will remain,

But your face and story will be placed with the others,

another link in an unfortunate chain.

 

In one quick action this life came to a tragic stop,

You took your own life today,

This life, this story, now retold by this stranger, this cop.

©


Suicide and suicide prevention have such profound effects on those around each tragedy.  I have unfortunately had to deal with an unusual number of suicides as a police officer.  As my career progressed, these suicides really hit home when my co-workers, my friends, decided that this was also their escape.  The true answers and circumstances rarely, if ever, are brought to light. 

I recently red an article regarding police officers that have considered either harming themselves or taking their own lives.  This is a tough world.  This article is eye opening.  No longer should we be turning a blind eye to the epidemic of first responders and soldiers regarding the trauma that they face throughout their career. Bravado and toughness come with acceptance and help.  Please get help.  Please speak with your family and friends.  

Also take a look at the article link below.  Thank you for reading this difficult poem.

https://www.nbcnewyork.com/news/local/I-Team-Nearly-1-in-5-Cops-Has-Considered-Suicide-Amid-Stigma-Around-Mental-Health-Issues-500928011.html?fbclid=IwAR1vugiFPxNXFJn406RAnBfgOjubZ5QktrmFhYvTK7f_UJY6vf66O9OJSeY

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